With that in mind, I think we have to have our own awareness, as women, of how we speak and how we present ourselves and as I mentioned earlier, that can be a difficult thing to tackle. It is impossible to avoid absorbing all the pre-conceived notions of femininity that are out there. We are bombarded constantly online and everywhere with images and narratives that close down who and what we are. Age and nationality no doubt play a part also - I think it is quite an Irish thing to be self-deprecating and I'm certainly way more confident as a 49 year old than I was as a 20 year old. That however, is all the more reason for me to be conscious of how I am because if younger women never see a confident and assured woman who is happy to take on challenge, then how will they ever become that person themselves? Not that I'm setting myself up as some kind of amazing example but I have realised with age that it makes not a blind bit of difference what people think of me. It literally has no impact on my life and the dogma of female 'niceness' is just a load of rubbish. Genuine niceness, kindness and confidence are real qualities to aspire to but I think they are qualities that come from being your true self.
So let's hope the women of the future are strong and true to themselves!
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